Dating is something every person looks forward to. Dating can be fun sometimes! Being able to meet new people, go out to new places, feel the excitement of a potential new relationship (Lane,2021). You get to experience multiple dates doing activities, while getting to know someone. I know I always looked forward to dating while I was growing up. I couldn't wait to get asked out on dates and experience what other 16 year olds were experiencing. But dating isn't like what it used to be.
Dating used to be where a guy or girl would ask a person that they wanted to get to know better. A date was then planned out and scheduled with the person of your choosing. Dating has changed a ton to where we don't even date. Dating has changed a lot over the course of history, and, while technology has certainly played a role in that, societal roles have also shifted and given way to more freedom, self-expression, and experimentation when it comes to getting to know a potential partner (Lane, 2021).
There are so many positive things that you can learn from and about dating.
1. You act less selfish
2. Your stress levels are lowered
3. Reduced risk of depression
4. You feel happier
5. You feel invincible
6. You feel like someone gets you
7. You learn about yourself
8. Your world is expanded
9. You learn to compromise
10. You can stay healthy together
A lot of the previous reasons why dating is good are things most people don’t even think about. Dating in today's society consists of hook ups or not even dating at all. We have the tendency to date people until we hate them or they hate us. We date exclusively when we aren't ready for marriage. We put all our eggs in one basket hoping that it’ll work out for the long term. If we aren’t dating exclusively then we are simply just “hanging out”
Hanging out is the new dating in today’s world. We ask to hang out in fear of being rejected if we asked someone on a date. You put one foot in the door to see if you like hanging with the person or to consider talking to them longer with the possibility of another hang out. A lot of times it ends in ghosting. You stopped talking to the person, stopped answering calls and texts with no explanation. You avoid having an adult conversation that you aren’t interested in. This often leaves the person being ghosted very angry, hurt, and confused. You wonder what you did wrong and what made them decide to ghost you. This is the way this generation dates. Along with that, it has social media and technology involved. We get dating apps to make “dating” faster and easier. You match with people but don’t truly get to know them.
I know dating can be very hard and time consuming. A lot of people have it come easy to them while others take a long time to find that special someone. It’s a good idea to take your time dating while dating lots of people. Dating lots of people helps you to decide what you like and dislike about a person. In the end it helps you know exactly the kind of person you want to date and eventually end up being with.
References
Lane, K. (2021, September 2). How Dating Has Changed Through History. The List. Retrieved February 11, 2022, from https://www.thelist.com/162252/how-dating-has-changed-through-history/
Renner, A. (n.d.). 10 Reasons Why Being In A Relationship Makes Your Life Better And Healthier. Lifehack. Retrieved February 11, 2022, from https://www.lifehack.org/articles/communication/10-reasons-why-being-relationship-makes-your-life-better-and-healthier.html
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