Transitioning To Marriage

Transitioning to marriage can be very complex. Marriage is a huge change that a lot of people look forward to their whole lives. For most it may come unexpectedly, while others may over prepare for these life changes. Couples can go into these major transitions with no knowledge. It is very important that people are educated on what to expect during the early stages of parenthood and marriage. Being better prepared will help to limit the amount of problems people may face while entering these transitions. Marriage is the process by which two people make their relationship public, official and permanent. It’s the joining of two people in a bond that lasts until death (Marriage, n.d.). Marriage is a huge change that people have to adjust to. You aren’t only changing your status from single to in a relationship, but you have to change your whole living style. You are now living with another person that you share a bed with, bathroom, money, etc. There may be things that you have to change about your old living habits. You have to give up things as well as learning new things in order to grow as a couple.There are multiple tips that are helpful when adjusting to marriage. First, you get to live together. You get to go from living two separate lives to one. It’s exciting knowing you get to live with your spouse under one roof for forever. Second, you have expectations set for yourself as a spouse. As a spouse you set certain expectations for yourself in your relationship. You may have the expectation of having to cook for every meal. It is important that you communicate with your spouse on what these certain expectations are. Third, realize how different your families are. You and your spouse may come from completely different families and lifestyles. There are both healthy and bad habits that are picked up from each family. It is important to realize that, and to determine as a couple what works best for you guys. Fourth, communication is key. It is crucial that you and your spouse communicate. Communication is probably the most important thing in a relationship. “Whether it’s planning an event, making a big decision or being vulnerable, learning how to communicate as a couple is an important part of a healthy marriage. It’s no longer just you and your thoughts and feelings; someone else now needs to be intentionally brought into those parts of your life. But communication isn’t just about talking to talk; it’s about openness and intimacy,” (7 Tips for How to Adjust to Married Life, n.d.).